Thursday, August 11, 2016

Survival of the fittest

Having a discussion about survival of the fittest with Adam and Tyren..I mentioned maybe some deer had longer necks and were able to survive because they could reach more food...

Then the conversation evolved into silly speculations, ending in Adam saying:

"What if the original inventor of the forklift was really shortnecked deers, and humans stole the invention."

Um, whaaaat?

Gawd my husband is weird. 

Friday, July 15, 2016

Thoughts on family

I was just doing some thoughts on family while showering. I do a lot of thinking in the shower. 

Some families are not close. I know families that spend time together, but don't necessarily know each other or even really enjoy each other's company. They might have awkward or toxic relationships or they might just do get togethers because it's an obligation, because that's what family do, spend holidays and special days together. Hell, we do that too, I won't deny that. It's something I hate about family life...the obligations. DETEST them.

But the difference in my family, I think, and in families like mine, is that we genuinely know each other and like to spend time talking to each other regularly. Should be more, but we do it. Long phone conversations. Still. After all these years. Even living in the same town. I love that. 

My brother, who lives in another town, and I, decided a long time ago that we needed to make time to talk. So we have a weekly phone date. We talk on the phone most weeks for an hour or more...sometimes about stupid stuff, about stuff going on in our lives, stuff going on in our lives, and about our feelings. I love our talks, and the chance to get to know my brother again. 

I also often end up having long, unplanned talks on the phone with my mom...and sometimes with my dad. I really cherish these times. I love that we are close and can share our lives with each other and really talk to each other...not just casual chit chat at required holiday gatherings. 

I want to try to do more. I need to make a conscious effort to just pick up the phone more and chat. I always enjoy talking to my family. They are wonderful people. And I feel like I truly know them, because we do talk about how we are feeling...which is a really good feeling. 

What I hate are obligations. I want to get together and spend time with my parents and brother (and his wife) because I want to, not because someone says it's a holiday. I really do hate holidays. Hate them. Because they are required. They suck the joy out of me. If I want to celebrate, I want to celebrate because *I* want to. The only holidays I enjoy are birthdays because not everyone celebrates them, so they are not always an obligation for every person. Plus it's the one thing we make a big deal about...for the kids. 

But Christmas, Easter, Mother's Day, Father's Day, Thanksgiving, 4th of July....bleh. Obligations. 

We have actually found a really nice solution to Mother's/Father's Day though that works for me now. So I am enjoying those again. Special bfast here for our family, and spend the first half of the day home with just our little (4) family, relaxing...then I take my parent out at some point alone and at a different time, Adam, his. It's intimate and lovely. Problem solved. If only I could find a solution to the other holidays that doesn't involve all the chaos and obligations and stress. Maybe someday. 

In the meantime, I'll try to keep finding ways to connect deeply with my extended family outside of holidays, making the day to day meaningful. 

Monday, June 27, 2016

2 min isn't so long

I just walked into the bedroom to my husband demonstrating to my 10yr old how 2 min isn't very long in a very unique way...

Timer set on his iPhone, wacking son with pillows, tons of giggles from my son. 

My husband's parenting is never a dull moment, I tell ya. 

Friday, April 15, 2016

It's moments like these...

My 15yr old just excitedly said to me: "Look! I can lick my  elbow!" And then she proceeded to do so. *facepalm*


Sunday, March 27, 2016

No Chocolate bunny for Dad

Tyr and Adam were arguing about possession of his chocolate bunny (it's Easter)...Adam was trying to convince him the Easter Bunny left a note saying the chocolate bunny was for his dad...Tyr wasn't buying it and telling him why...ending with:

Tyr: "And ALSO..." (Grabs his bunny and licks it a bunch) "I licked it."

Me: (cracking up)

Adam: "Uh, ok, you can keep it."

Wednesday, March 02, 2016

Deja Vu

I'm having an odd sense of deja vu. I'm feeling like I've lived this scenario before...But it damn well better be different this time around. And luckily, I am pretty sure it is.

So we're reviving The Learning Village. Remember my homeschool resource center? That failed project of mine from several years ago? Let's see, it was 2009 to about 2011 I suppose. It started off gangbusters...I had this fantastic idea and got all excited but waited to start it until I knew for sure there were others that would support it and help me build it. And there were! Tons of people said they were excited about it and YES YES!! DO IT!! We totally support you! And we'll do it with you! And we'll lead activities and teach classes with you, Tina! We are WITH you!! 

Are you sure? I asked....Because I don't want to do this if I don't have community support....Oh yes, they said...yes's an awesome idea....let's do it!! And then I did it and then POOF! They all disappeared like smoke! And I was left holding all the balls myself. Yeah I'm not still the least bit bitter. Nope.

So now we have a new scenario that is starting off really familiar....lots of enthusiasm and YES YES! Let's DO THIS! But this time....I'm going in more cautiously and not just doing it all myself like I did before. I'm not leading it all and I'm not the entire spearheader. (Is that even a word?) 

This time it's not starting because one crazy passionate mom had an's starting because an entire COMMUNITY is being disassembled (thanks a ton ERCLC for abandoning us...yeah, love ya, *smooches* I get it...I see where your priorities are...No hard feelings at ALL. Nah.) and we don't want that to happen so we, the parents of the Fresno satellite of ERCLC are going to keep our little community we are creating something new to keep our kids and our familiestogether!

So because of this difference...the fact that it's starting with an entire community that is already used to spending regular time together in a quality program for the past 4 years...and we want to keep doing that...I think that makes a big difference over one mom trying to create something that didn't yet exist, and trying to create connections that hadn't yet been made. 

And we are essentially trying to copy/paste (and improve upon) what already existed. So THIS might actually work.

But the familiarity of this....this initial excitement and this YEAH, let's DO IT!! It's nerve wracking! I'm trying so hard to think ahead and figure out how to make sure this time is DIFFERENT. Learn from my mistakes of the past. Make sure that the past does not repeat and this time this project actually is successful! 

Because I really think this time could work! We have so many fantastic people and fantastic ideas! If we can just get the commitment and the organization that I know we are capable of. 

Here's hoping!!!

Friday, January 29, 2016

How crude

My husband just told my son not to use the word "asteroid" because that was "kinda crude."..."Call it a buttsteroid."