Thursday, January 22, 2015
Just had a long conversation with her about the importance of routine....something I've struggled with for YEARS. At least since I became a mom...I was much better about it pre-kids.
Lately I've actually been getting my act together, thanks to the HomeRoutines app and good old fashioned determination. I think it's also helped that I'm learning to how to work WITH my weaknesses, instead of against them...and allowing for many SQUIRREL!s and falling off the horse.
So since I've struggled to get my kids to follow a routine, even though I have even gotten Maeven the same app on her phone and detailed out a simple routine for her to follow in the morning and early afternoon...very doable...it still has been a struggle because she just wants to do her own thing, in her own time all the time. Typical teenager, right? Well she's not usually a typical teenager. I tend to think that's part because of her being homeschooled and not around all the garbage the rest of the country is around daily as a teen, but also just because of who she is.
ANYWAY, I managed to convey what I was trying to convey in a light way and much smiles and laughter ensued. Pat on the back for me not to engage in a battle with my teen. :) Now it remains to be seen if she now follows through on our discussion...but historically, she has been a very cooperative and helpful kid since she hit adolescence (NOT so when she was younger!), and usually reason and respectful conversations about the way things are tend to work wonderfully with her. Yelling and arguing do NOT. Like ever.
So I just am feeling pretty good about my new ability to deal with her....and the fact that lately I've been pretty calm and peaceful and not prone to yelling. VERY proud of myself for that!!
Next I have to talk to Tyren and he's a whole 'nother ballgame. He was always my super happy, cooperative child, but since about 8 he's turned into this beast who has to argue over EVERYTHING and NOTHING seems easy with him! Now, at 9, I've just got to stop myself from engaging in argument with him and stand my ground on issues that there is no negotiation on. (Yes, you ARE going to shower!) Using a respectful and firm but kind tone seems to work usually. He does give in and cooperate eventually, almost always....but it's a bear getting to that point. Wears me down.
But I KNOW that giving in is not the solution, and I've never been a mom prone to giving in and being permissive with my kids anyway, so that's not really an issue. Just exhaustion and lack of patience and calm tone. He pushes my buttons, oh this boy. But I know that UNlecturing works with him too...I just have to hold my ground and help him to stay focused on my reasoning and he usually concedes.
We'll see how it goes. :)
Saturday, December 06, 2014
Tuesday, October 21, 2014
Tuesday, July 22, 2014
Today was a complete wash in some ways and very productive in others. I was planning to do some more house cleaning and purging, as I've been doing all summer, but got totally sidetracked.
I finally pinned my kids down and asked them what time period they'd like to start with this coming school year. I pulled out our Usborne Encyclopedia of World History and thumbed through the 4 time periods. My son (9) immediately said "prehistoric", and that he wanted to study dinosaurs again. Oh yay. Prehistory is NOT my favorite time period!
Asked my daughter (13.5) what she thought and she said she agreed. They both went on to show me all the pics of the weird creatures that they will get to learn about. They're excited!
We've done prehistory and evolution and creation stories before...but it was awhile ago. So, interesting, this is what they want.
So I wasn't excited, but went straight away to the Secular Charlotte Mason Yahoogroup to search for book recommendations. Found a TON!!! And not only that, but I found lots of books on people like Darwin and other people who made prehistoric discoveries, and now I'm excited! There's some cool ideas in here! This could be fun!
So my house didn't get any cleaner, but I got a head start on research for our upcoming school year and I'm excited! I spent hours copying/pasting book recommendations and links. So cool!
Saturday, July 19, 2014
Saturday, July 05, 2014
Tuesday, May 27, 2014
I don't know how long this will last...but for right now, I've been feeling really excited about some of my plans for this summer and the next school year. And that energy is really keeping me going and making me feel GOOD! :)