Thursday, January 22, 2015


I love that I finally seem to have developed the ability to lecture my 14yr old daughter about life lessons in a way that is goofy and fun, and very UNlecture-y.

Just had a long conversation with her about the importance of routine....something I've struggled with for YEARS. At least since I became a mom...I was much better about it pre-kids.

Lately I've actually been getting my act together, thanks to the HomeRoutines app and good old fashioned determination. I think it's also helped that I'm learning to how to work WITH my weaknesses, instead of against them...and allowing for many SQUIRREL!s and falling off the horse.

So since I've struggled to get my kids to follow a routine, even though I have even gotten Maeven the same app on her phone and detailed out a simple routine for her to follow in the morning and early afternoon...very still has been a struggle because she just wants to do her own thing, in her own time all the time. Typical teenager, right? Well she's not usually a typical teenager. I tend to think that's part because of her being homeschooled and not around all the garbage the rest of the country is around daily as a teen, but also just because of who she is.

ANYWAY, I managed to convey what I was trying to convey in a light way and much smiles and laughter ensued. Pat on the back for me not to engage in a battle with my teen. :)  Now it remains to be seen if she now follows through on our discussion...but historically, she has been a very cooperative and helpful kid since she hit adolescence (NOT so when she was younger!), and usually reason and respectful conversations about the way things are tend to work wonderfully with her. Yelling and arguing do NOT. Like ever.

So I just am feeling pretty good about my new ability to deal with her....and the fact that lately I've been pretty calm and peaceful and not prone to yelling. VERY proud of myself for that!!

Next I have to talk to Tyren and he's a whole 'nother ballgame. He was always my super happy, cooperative child, but since about 8 he's turned into this beast who has to argue over EVERYTHING and NOTHING seems easy with him! Now, at 9, I've just got to stop myself from engaging in argument with him and stand my ground on issues that there is no negotiation on. (Yes, you ARE going to shower!) Using a respectful and firm but kind tone seems to work usually. He does give in and cooperate eventually, almost always....but it's a bear getting to that point. Wears me down.

But I KNOW that giving in is not the solution, and I've never been a mom prone to giving in and being permissive with my kids anyway, so that's not really an issue. Just exhaustion and lack of patience and calm tone. He pushes my buttons, oh this boy. But I know that UNlecturing works with him too...I just have to hold my ground and help him to stay focused on my reasoning and he usually concedes.

We'll see how it goes. :)

Saturday, December 06, 2014

Hubby's humor

After the Clovis Xmas Lights parade...

"That car's antlers are shaped like a bicycle"

What was he looking at? A car with a bicycle on top, of course. 

Tuesday, October 21, 2014

The weather is beautiful but my mood is not

This week the temp FINALLY took a nose dive and it started feeling less like summer, more like fall. Well, Fresno fall, which isn't crisp like it was in NJ...just not HOT, like it's been since May.

Yet, I'm feeling really overwhelmed with all that I need to do, and all that is going on, that it's been difficult to enjoy the weather.

I was very proud of myself last week (meeting week, so no enrichment classes at our homeschool charter), because I was on a roll with staying on task with my morning routine. I actually got it completed most days last week! A huge accomplishment! But this week, I'm feeling off track, even though our routine is set by the activities we do it's not like we are technically off track. It's just a busy week.
It just felt so great last week, being right on track with my routine. Ah well. 

And I've been falling asleep earlier lately, which throws off my work schedule at night. I try to reserve that time for client work (website work), but I've just been too sleepy. Gotta get my butt in gear during the day to make up for it!

Overall, if I really think about it, we're still doing quite well... I just feel really out of sorts today for some reason. I wish I could shake this bleh feeling.

Tuesday, July 22, 2014

A Productive NonProductive Day

Today was a complete wash in some ways and very productive in others. I was planning to do some more house cleaning and purging, as I've been doing all summer, but got totally sidetracked.

I finally pinned my kids down and asked them what time period they'd like to start with this coming school year. I pulled out our Usborne Encyclopedia of World History and thumbed through the 4 time periods. My son (9) immediately said "prehistoric", and that he wanted to study dinosaurs again. Oh yay. Prehistory is NOT my favorite time period! 

Asked my daughter (13.5) what she thought and she said she agreed. They both went on to show me all the pics of the weird creatures that they will get to learn about. They're excited! 

We've done prehistory and evolution and creation stories before...but it was awhile ago. So, interesting, this is what they want.

So I wasn't excited, but went straight away to the Secular Charlotte Mason Yahoogroup to search for book recommendations. Found a TON!!! And not only that, but I found lots of books on people like Darwin and other people who made prehistoric discoveries, and now I'm excited! There's some cool ideas in here! This could be fun!

So my house didn't get any cleaner, but I got a head start on research for our upcoming school year and I'm excited! I spent hours copying/pasting book recommendations and links. So cool!

Saturday, July 19, 2014

Maeven quote from age 7

Just found this on a piece of paper:

"Today I saw a great blue heron and a white heron! They are very neat! Also we saw 4 turtles. And lots and lots of little ducks. One black duck kept following us around. He thought we had food." 

Saturday, July 05, 2014

Adam-ism of the day

After I told Adam I wasn't going to go check to see if the drier was empty for him, that he could do it himself, because I was in the middle of something (He's ALWAYS trying to get me to do things for him, and feigns hurt or anger when I won't.)....

"Sometimes when people are being mean to other people, they end up going in their office and playing on their computer."

Then he wanders into the other room and sees our almost 9yr old on my computer, working on pinning items to his Pinterest wish list for his upcoming birthday, I hear him say: " Tyren was someone mean to you??"

Dorkface. Lol!!!

Tuesday, May 27, 2014

Gearing up for a good summer!

I've been feeling really good lately. Not sure entirely why, except I've relaxed about a lot of things. I am doing a more relaxed homeschooling, I'm trying to stay on top of my life responsibilities but at the same time do it in a more relaxed manner (vs running around like a maniac, feeling stressed out all the time), and just enjoying planning out the next things I want to do and how to go about making them happen.

I don't know how long this will last...but for right now, I've been feeling really excited about some of my plans for this summer and the next school year. And that energy is really keeping me going and making me feel GOOD! :)